Men, Trauma & Facing Demons - Tazim Elkington, Eric Mutiso & Fareed Khimani | Coffee Pump (E073)

Konichiwa Fam! For E073, the trio (⁨@eotwe777, Fareed Khimani, and I) did something very different. We visited a hypnotherapist - Tazim Elkington. We filmed this episode in early November 2025 and sat on it for a while because the conversation went deep. We had to open up about real pain points in our lives, and it felt important to share it only when we were ready. We’re glad we’re finally putting it out there. There’s a lot of wisdom in this one, and we hope you take something meaningful from it. Best, Team Coffee Pump Find our guest Tazim: - Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/share/18YCXyh7hX/?mibextid=wwXIfr - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tazimelkington?igsh=MXQ5MHB0ZzNhejZ1Mw== - Website: https://tazim.net - Email: tazim@tazim.net Our Sponsors: Connect Coffee Roasters - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/connectcoffeeroasters/?hl=en - Connect Coffee Website: https://connectcoffeeroasters.net - Riverfront, Chiromo Branch: https://maps.app.goo.gl/sk8Z4HysfCSz3Hja7 Find Eric: - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/era_skipping?igsh=MWplMGs1eWc4dmhtcw== - Eric’s Podcast: Every Other time With Eric: https://youtube.com/@eotwe777?si=4oEElucbQb1mn5bC - EOTWE Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/everyother_time?igsh=NWRwamk0YzZma2g2 Find Fareed: - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fareeddiamondkhimani?igsh=MWcwMm8zZnhubDRzcg== - X:https://x.com/FareedKhimani CoffeePump Socials: - Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61578456950684 - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coffeepumppodcast? utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw== Coffee Pump Audio: - Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/ke/podcast/coffee-pump/id1755013994 - Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0X1unCgwcsMSoG7YfgAu73?si=FBy53R8rSCm-xXGJMKQtaQ Find our host Sajid Vayani: - Instagram: https://instagram.com/sajidvayani?igshid=OGQ5ZDc2ODk2ZA== - TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sajvayani?_t=ZM-8tKwY3KSEon&_r=1 - YouTube: https://youtube.com/@sajidvayani - Twitter / X: https://x.com/sajvayani?s=21 Disclaimer: The content of The Coffee Pump Podcast is intended for entertainment and informational purposes only. The views, thoughts, and opinions expressed by the hosts and guests are solely their own and do not necessarily reflect the views of The Coffee Pump Podcast, its affiliates, or any associated entities. Nothing discussed in this podcast should be construed as professional advice in any field, including but not limited to legal, financial, medical, or business matters. Any statements made about businesses, products, or individuals are based on personal experiences and opinions and are not meant to be taken as fact or a definitive review. The Coffee Pump Podcast does not assume any liability for the accuracy, completeness, or consequences of using the information discussed. Listeners are encouraged to form their own opinions, conduct their own research, and seek professional guidance where appropriate. By listening to this podcast, you acknowledge that The Coffee Pump Podcast is not responsible for any actions or decisions made based on the content provided. 0:00 - Intro 1:07 - Saj meeting Tazim 1:57 - Saj's experience with hypnotherapy 4:40 - Eric's relapse 6:12 - Saj's life improvement 9:04 - Fareed's struggles 16:00 - Fareed's relationship with his family 22:14 - Turn up culture 24:50 - Trauma 34:18 - How to deal with trauma 39:10 - How marriage changed Tazim 43:30 - Is there meaning to life? 46:20 - Men being vulnerable 48:18 - Education, job etiquette vs skills 52:33 - Fareed's relapse 1:03:46 - Maternal support from other women 1:09:50 - How to know you have healed from trauma 1:12:00 - Does confrontation help in healing? 1:14:30 - Taking responsibilities ourselves 1:19:00 - Eric's captain saviour behaviour 1:25:08 - Saj's therapy before marriage 1:27:28 - Do women forgive? 1:31:51 - Putting a foundation before marriage 1:34:58 - The idea of marriage to Saj 1:44:27 - Stone game 2:04:00 - Kibe in a pod with Tazim 2:06:13 - Tazim's book 2:07:58 - Outro